I've been following Katie since my divorce in 2018 and love her writings. This post hit home for me, as while I'm remarried now, I see what my wife does for her two kids as compared to their father. I try to gently push back and tell her that their dad needs and should do more and that while it's tough, the girls just have to go to stay with their dad.
While it is tough, I think that single moms need to push back and have the other parent do "more", even if it's tough on the kids. The kids will probably fight it, especially in their teenage years, but they'll be ok in the long run.
My boys actually choose to live with me vs their mother after our divorce (I kept the house), but I also made them go to their moms every other weekend. Both parents need and deserve a break and if that means a kid or two misses something or forgets something, that's OK.
Good luck Katie and looking forward to your next post....
Thank you for reading and commenting, John! It feels good to see a longtime readers who are following here after I took such a long break from writing at all. I feel what you are saying in a big way. Sometimes it feels like a couple of weekends alone every month are the only way I have any sanity. It also makes me think about only parents (through death or messier divorce) with amazement. I'm an only parent on weekdays only, and it feels like that nearly kills me! Just so much constant mental load.
I've been following Katie since my divorce in 2018 and love her writings. This post hit home for me, as while I'm remarried now, I see what my wife does for her two kids as compared to their father. I try to gently push back and tell her that their dad needs and should do more and that while it's tough, the girls just have to go to stay with their dad.
While it is tough, I think that single moms need to push back and have the other parent do "more", even if it's tough on the kids. The kids will probably fight it, especially in their teenage years, but they'll be ok in the long run.
My boys actually choose to live with me vs their mother after our divorce (I kept the house), but I also made them go to their moms every other weekend. Both parents need and deserve a break and if that means a kid or two misses something or forgets something, that's OK.
Good luck Katie and looking forward to your next post....
Thank you for reading and commenting, John! It feels good to see a longtime readers who are following here after I took such a long break from writing at all. I feel what you are saying in a big way. Sometimes it feels like a couple of weekends alone every month are the only way I have any sanity. It also makes me think about only parents (through death or messier divorce) with amazement. I'm an only parent on weekdays only, and it feels like that nearly kills me! Just so much constant mental load.